How Hattie Hated Kindness

How Hattie Hated Kindness Author : Margot Sunderland
Release : 2003
Publisher : Speechmark Publishing
ISBN : 9780863884610
File Size : 53.96 MB
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The titles in this extraordinary series are a vital resource. Nine practical guidebooks, each with an accompanying beautifully illustrated storybook, have been written to help children (aged 4-12) think about and connect with their feelings.These guides and stories enable teachers, parents and professionals to recognise the unresolved feelings behind a child's behaviour and to respond correctly to help.How Hattie Hated Kindness is a story for children locked in rage or hate:(A story for children locked in rage or hate) Hattie lives by herself on an island. She likes sharks, and crabs and stinging centipedes. She likes anything hard and spiky. Lots of people try to bring kindness to Hattie on her island, but each time she is very horrid to them, smashing and spoiling everything they try to do for her. So after a while they all stop coming to the island. Hattie is very alone. So she sits by the water's edge and tries to figure out why she hates love and loves hate. She thinks it must be because she is a very bad girl indeed. But the lapping water-over-her-toes helps Hattie to understand that because she'd been a very sad and frightened little girl in a too hard world, she had become hard too, so that the awful fear and the awful pain would go away. The lapping-water-over-her-toes helps Hattie to move from cruel to kind. In the end, Hattie builds a bridge to the warm and cosy world across the water.

How Hattie Hated Kindness

How Hattie Hated Kindness Author : Margot Sunderland
Release : 2017-07-05
Publisher : Routledge
ISBN : 1351706276
File Size : 34.33 MB
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The titles in this extraordinary series are a vital resource. Nine practical guidebooks, each with an accompanying beautifully illustrated storybook, have been written to help children (aged 4-12) think about and connect with their feelings. These guides and stories enable teachers, parents and professionals to recognise the unresolved feelings behind a child's behaviour and to respond correctly to help. How Hattie Hated Kindness is a story for children locked in rage or hate: (A story for children locked in rage or hate). Hattie lives by herself on an island. She likes sharks, and crabs and stinging centipedes. She likes anything hard and spiky. Lots of people try to bring kindness to Hattie on her island, but each time she is very horrid to them, smashing and spoiling everything they try to do for her. So after a while they all stop coming to the island. Hattie is very alone. So she sits by the water's edge and tries to figure out why she hates love and loves hate. She thinks it must be because she is a very bad girl indeed. But the lapping water-over-her-toes helps Hattie to understand that because she'd been a very sad and frightened little girl in a too hard world, she had become hard too, so that the awful fear and the awful pain would go away. The lapping-water-over-her-toes helps Hattie to move from cruel to kind. In the end, Hattie builds a bridge to the warm and cosy world across the water.

Helping Children Locked in Rage Or Hate - How Hattie Hated Kindness

Helping Children Locked in Rage Or Hate - How Hattie Hated Kindness Author : Margot Sunderland
Release : 2003-10
Publisher : Routledge
ISBN : 9780863884696
File Size : 72.93 MB
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This practical guidebook, with a beautifully-illustrated storybook, enables teachers, parents and professionals to help children aged 4-12 connect with unresolved feelings affecting their behaviour. This is a guidebook to help children who: hurt, hit, bite, smash, kick, shout, scream or who are out of control, hyperaroused or hyperactive can only discharge their angry feelings in verbal or physical attacks, rather than being able to think about and reflect on what they feel are angry because it is easier than feeling hurt or sad are locked in anger or rage because of sibling rivalry are controlling and punitive regularly defy authority or are diagnosed with a conduct disorder commit cold acts of cruelty, hurt animals or do not cry any more spoil, damage or destroy what others do or make create fear in others because they have locked away their own fears do not want to please people, cannot trust, have stopped looking for love or approval or truly believe they do not need anyone do not really know how to 'like' someone, and definitely do not know how to love someone or are affectionate only if they want something. How Hattie Hated Kindness is a story for children locked in rage or hate. Hattie lives by herself on an island. Lots of people try to bring kindness to Hattie, but each time she is very horrid to them, smashing and spoiling everything they try to do for her. So after a while they all stop trying and Hattie is very alone. With the help of the lapping water-over-her-toes, Hattie understands that because she'd been a very sad and frightened little girl in a too hard world, she had become hard too, so that the awful fear and the awful pain would go away.

Helping Children Locked in Rage Or Hate

Helping Children Locked in Rage Or Hate Author : Margot Sunderland
Release : 2003
Publisher : Routledge
ISBN : 9780863884658
File Size : 59.59 MB
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This is a guidebook to help children who: hurt, hit, bite, smash, kick, shout, scream or who are out of control, hyperaroused or hyperactive; can only discharge their angry feelings in verbal or physical attacks, rather than being able to think about and reflect on what they feel; are angry because it is easier than feeling hurt or sad; are locked in anger or rage because of sibling rivalry; are controlling and punitive; regularly defy authority or are diagnosed with a conduct disorder; commit cold acts of cruelty, hurt animals or do not cry any more; spoil, damage or destroy what others do or make; create fear in others because they have locked away their own fears; do not want to please people, cannot trust, have stopped looking for love or approval or truly believe they do not need anyone; do not really know how to 'like' someone; and, definitely do not know how to love someone or are affectionate only if they want something.

Helping Children Locked in Rage or Hate

Helping Children Locked in Rage or Hate Author : Margot Sunderland
Release : 2017-07-05
Publisher : Routledge
ISBN : 1351687689
File Size : 26.65 MB
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This is a guidebook to help children who: hurt, hit, bite, smash, kick, shout, scream or who are out of control, hyperaroused or hyperactive; can only discharge their angry feelings in verbal or physical attacks, rather than being able to think about and reflect on what they feel; are angry because it is easier than feeling hurt or sad; are locked in anger or rage because of sibling rivalry; are controlling and punitive; regularly defy authority or are diagnosed with a conduct disorder; commit cold acts of cruelty, hurt animals or do not cry any more; spoil, damage or destroy what others do or make; create fear in others because they have locked away their own fears; do not want to please people, cannot trust, have stopped looking for love or approval or truly believe they do not need anyone; do not really know how to 'like' someone; and, definitely do not know how to love someone or are affectionate only if they want something.

Ruby and the Rubbish Bin

Ruby and the Rubbish Bin Author : Margot Sunderland
Release : 2017-06-14
Publisher : Routledge
ISBN : 1351701533
File Size : 21.67 MB
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(A story for children with low self-esteem) Ruby hates herself so much that she often feels more like a piece of rubbish than a little girl. Children at school bully her. Sometimes Ruby feels so miserable that she wants to sleep and sleep and never wake up again. Then one day, Ruby meets Dot the lunchtime lady, When Ruby feels Dot's kindness and understanding, something warm happens in Ruby's tummy. Over time, Dot helps Ruby to move from self-hate to self-respect. In fact Dot's smile makes Ruby feel like a princess. After a very important dream, and help from Dot, Ruby decides enough is enough. She finds her voice and her anger, and stands up to the bullies. She makes new friends and knows what it's like to feel happy for the first time in her life.

Teenie Weenie in a Too Big World

Teenie Weenie in a Too Big World Author : Margot Sunderland
Release : 2017-05-08
Publisher : Routledge
ISBN : 1351699490
File Size : 73.48 MB
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(A story for fearful children) One day Teenie Weenie finds himself in a scrumbly screechy place. It is full of noises and crashes and things that swoop and scratch. The worse it gets, the smaller Teenie Weenie feels. After a while, he feels so small that the tiniest insect tries to eat him up. Teenie Weenie feels terrified and desperately alone. But after a while along strolls a Wip-Wop bird who invites Teenie Weenie to come and have a chocolate muffin in his tree house. With the Wip Wop bird and his friend Hoggie, Teenie Weenie learns for the first time in his life all about the power of TOGETHER. He comes to know how very different things look when it's an US not just a ME. And so after that, whenever Teenie Weenie finds himself struggling alone with something too difficult or too frightening, he goes off and finds some TOGETHER.

A Wibble Called Bipley

A Wibble Called Bipley Author : Margot Sunderland
Release : 2017-07-05
Publisher : Routledge
ISBN : 1351693352
File Size : 60.9 MB
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A story for children who have hardened their hearts or become bullies. Bipley is a warm cuddly creature, but someone has broken his heart. He feels so hurt that he decides it is just too painful to ever love again. When he meets some big tough Honks in the wood, they teach him how to harden his heart so that he doesn't have to feel hurt any more. Luckily Bipley meets some creatures who teach him how he can protect himself without hardening his heart.

Helping Children with Troubled Parents

Helping Children with Troubled Parents Author : Margot Sunderland
Release : 2017-04-28
Publisher : Taylor & Francis
ISBN : 1351706578
File Size : 44.64 MB
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This book is designed to enable practitioners to help children whose emotional wellbeing is being adversely affected by troubled parents. These are children who live with the burden of having to navigate their parent's troubled emotional states, often leaving them with a mass of painful feelings about a chaotic and disturbing world. They can feel alarmed by their parent rather than experiencing them as 'home', and a place of safety and solace. The author explores the fact that when parents are preoccupied with their own troubles, they are often unable to effectively address their child's core relational needs, e.g. soothing, validating, attunement, co-adventure, interactive play. As a result, children are left self-helping, which all too often means drugs, drink, self-harm, depression, anxiety, eating disorders or problems with anger in the teenage years. This guidebook offers readers a wealth of vital theory and effective interventions for working with these children and, specifically, the key feelings such children need help with. Particular focus is given to the effects on children of: family breakdown; separation and divorce; witnessing parents fighting; and parents who suffer from depression or anxiety, mental or physical ill-health, alcohol or drug addiction. Readers will learn: the complexity of children's feelings about their troubled parents; how to enable children to address their unspoken hurt, fear, grief, rage, and resentment about their troubled parent in order to move forward in their lives; how to empower children to find their voice when they have been left in the role of impotent bystander; effective parent-child intervention when parental troubles are adversely affecting the child; and how to help a parent and child 'find' each other again.

Willy and the Wobbly House

Willy and the Wobbly House Author : Margot Sunderland
Release : 2017-07-05
Publisher : Routledge
ISBN : 1351372289
File Size : 39.37 MB
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This is a story for children who are anxious or obsessional. Willy is an anxious boy who experiences the world as a very unsafe, wobbly place where anything awful might happen at any time. Joe, the boy next door, is too ordered and tidy to be able to ever really enjoy life. Follow their adventures with the Puddle People who help them break out of their fixed patterns and find far richer ways of living in the world.

The Frog Who Longed for the Moon to Smile

The Frog Who Longed for the Moon to Smile Author : Margot Sunderland
Release : 2017-07-05
Publisher : Routledge
ISBN : 1351687271
File Size : 28.97 MB
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A story for children who yearn for someone they love. Frog is very much in love with the moon because she once smiled at him. So now he spends all his time dreaming about her. He waits and waits for her to smile at him again. One day a wise and friendly crow helps frog to see how he is wasting his life away. All the time he has been facing the place of very little, he's had his back to the place of plenty.

A Nifflenoo Called Nevermind

A Nifflenoo Called Nevermind Author : Margot Sunderland
Release : 2017-07-05
Publisher : Routledge
ISBN : 1351693689
File Size : 79.96 MB
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A story for children who bottle up their feelings. Nevermind always carries on whatever happens! Each time something horrible happens to him he just tucks his feelings away and carries on with life. Find out what happens to Nevermind and how he begins to understand that his feelings do matter, how he learns to express them and stand up for himself.

Domestic Violence and Children

Domestic Violence and Children Author : Abigail Sterne
Release : 2009-10-16
Publisher : Routledge
ISBN : 1135253919
File Size : 39.69 MB
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This book describes the impact of domestic violence on children and provides support for education and social care professionals, suggesting practical ways in which Education staff can meet the needs of pupils from difficult home backgrounds.

Helping Children with Low Self-Esteem & Ruby and the Rubbish Bin

Helping Children with Low Self-Esteem & Ruby and the Rubbish Bin Author : Margot Sunderland
Release : 2021-08-26
Publisher : Routledge
ISBN : 1000474453
File Size : 90.25 MB
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This practical guidebook, with a beautifully-illustrated storybook, enables teachers, parents and professionals to help children aged 4-12 connect with unresolved feelings affecting their behaviour. Helping Children with Low Self-Esteem is a guidebook to help children who: don't like themselves or feel there is something fundamentally wrong with them have been deeply shamed have received too much criticism or haven't been encouraged enough let people treat them badly because they feel they don't deserve better do not accept praise or appreciation because they feel they don't deserve it feel defeated by life, fundamentally unimportant, unwanted or unlovable bully because they think they are worthless or think they are worthless because they are bullied and, feel they don't belong or do not seek friends because they think no-one would want to be their friend. Ruby and the Rubbish Bin is a story for children with low self-esteem. Ruby hates herself so much that she often feels more like a piece of rubbish than a little girl. Sometimes Ruby feels so miserable that she wants to sleep and sleep and never wake up again. Then Ruby meets Dot and, over time, Dot helps Ruby to move from self-hate to self-respect. After a very important dream, and help from Dot, Ruby finds her voice and her anger, and stands up to the bullies. She makes new friends and knows what it's like to feel happy for the first time in her life.

Life Work with Children Who are Fostered or Adopted

Life Work with Children Who are Fostered or Adopted Author : Joy Rees
Release : 2018-01-18
Publisher : Jessica Kingsley Publishers
ISBN : 1784505048
File Size : 62.11 MB
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This new book from life work expert Joy Rees explains the value of effective and meaningful life work with children who are fostered and adopted, and how best to carry this out. This book will help social work professionals, foster carers and adopters to understand the many aspects of life work and to consider the important contributions they can all make to this task. Life work is about helping children to know and to understand their personal stories and the life experiences that have shaped them. Enabling children to reach their potential and achieve the best possible outcome is the common goal, and this is best achieved by using the collaborative approach to life work advocated in this book

Preparing for Adoption

Preparing for Adoption Author : Julia Davis
Release : 2014-10-21
Publisher : Jessica Kingsley Publishers
ISBN : 0857008315
File Size : 75.27 MB
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The ideal first book for prospective adopters. When you decide to adopt a child, you might assume that all the important work begins when the child comes to live with you. In fact the preparation stage before is crucial in ensuring that the adopted child will arrive to a safe and secure family. Preparing for Adoption provides clear advice on how to prepare for you adoptive child and create a strong foundation for a healthy and loving relationship. Julia Davis explains how many different factors can shape preparations for adoption, such as finding out about your child's history and using this information to establish a family environment which will meet your child's specific attachment needs. There is also advice on how to prepare your home to create a sense of safety for your child and how to prepare your family to support you as adoptive parents. Primarily for adopters, foster carers and professionals supporting adopters, this book offers ideas and strategies to help parents prepare a happy and settled home for children before their arrival and ways to parent them in the early days of becoming a family that addresses their attachment needs.

Hearts and Minds Matter

Hearts and Minds Matter Author : Jackie Eldridge
Release : 2021-02-11
Publisher : FriesenPress
ISBN : 1525582437
File Size : 46.64 MB
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Hearts and Minds Matter: Creating Learning Environments Where All Students Belong is an invaluable resource for all educational stakeholders, including teachers, school administrators, classroom support personnel, students and parents. The work is based on the understanding that human potential, given the right learning conditions, is boundless. In it, authors Jackie Eldridge and Denise McLafferty explore the many positive and necessary attributes of inclusion. To maximize a child’s potential, they must feel they belong to, and are in, a predictable learning environment. Only through inclusion and the creation and sustainability of a safe community can children survive, thrive, and become resilient adults. Grounded in research on human needs and wants, emotional intelligence, brain-compatible learning, and resilience, Hearts and Minds Matter: Creating Learning Environments Where All Students Belong provides educators with the foundation necessary to understand the power of belonging in safe, inclusive classrooms. This work provides a balance of theory and practice, with a wide variety of engaging strategies, tactics, and skills that can be immediately incorporated into the classrooms of today. The approach allows students to maximize their academic and social-emotional skills with trust and confidence. People can and will make a difference in the world, given optimal circumstances. Hearts and Minds Matter: Creating Learning Environments Where All Students Belong is here to help you build and sustain these conditions.

Understanding Pathological Demand Avoidance Syndrome in Children

Understanding Pathological Demand Avoidance Syndrome in Children Author : Margaret Duncan
Release : 2011-09-15
Publisher : Jessica Kingsley Publishers
ISBN : 9780857002532
File Size : 20.43 MB
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This straightforward guide offers a complete overview of Pathological Demand Avoidance Syndrome (PDA) and gives practical advice for overcoming the difficulties it poses in a wide range of contexts from diagnosis through to adulthood. Starting with an exploration into the background of PDA that answers many of the immediate questions triggered when a child is first diagnosed, the book goes on to look at the impact of the condition on different areas of the child's life and what can be done to help. The authors present useful information on early intervention options and workable strategies for managing PDA positively on a day-to-day basis. They also examine ways to minimize common difficulties that may be encountered at home and school, making life easier for the child, family and peers. The final chapters tackle new problems that can arise when the teenage years hit and how to assist a successful transition from adolescence to adulthood. Illustrative case examples are included throughout, and the book concludes with a list of valuable resources for further information and advice. Full of helpful guidance and support, this user-friendly introductory handbook is essential reading for anyone caring for, or working with, children with PDA.

Becoming an Adoption-Friendly School

Becoming an Adoption-Friendly School Author : Emma Gore Langton
Release : 2017-04-21
Publisher : Jessica Kingsley Publishers
ISBN : 1784505366
File Size : 53.12 MB
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Adopted children who have experienced loss, abuse or neglect need additional support for their emotional development, and are more likely to have special educational needs. This useful resource provides a complete plan for creating adoption-friendly environments in primary, secondary and specialist schools. The book is grounded on new research which gathered together testimonies from over 400 school staff members, adoptive parents and adoption specialists. With realistic consideration of pressures and limitations currently faced by schools, it gives advice on eight key areas for school development, including communicating with parents, training staff, using resources wisely and recognising children's individual needs. Completing the toolkit is a broad selection of photocopiable and downloadable plans for establishing adoption-friendly frameworks, and for demonstrating good practice to staff, pupils, families and school inspectors.